Monthly Archives: September 2015

Your Fairy-Tale Wedding Dress

The day you’ve dreamed about… Walking down the aisle with prince charming in his sleek, charming four piece suit that scream class and sophistication and not to mention possibly rented for the special occasion. That dream of eventually looking like a fairy-tale princess and all eyes on you and not leaving out the fact that the most cherished and adorned piece of item that sums up the whole voyage of marrying your soul and best mate is ultimately the most expensive item for you as a bride to be. It’s supposed to take roughly a whole year to source your dream wedding dress and within that time frame, chances are you would need numerous alteration and fittings to suit your changing figure, which I’m sure would trigger the need to go on a diet or possibly a crash diet to lose that unwanted love handles that seems to breakdown our world if we don’t lose it just in the nick of time to achieve that perfect hourglass or that supermodel figure for just that one special day.

If you fall into the category of wanting to buy and have the perfect wedding dress, probably a designer named, then spending that amount that could cater for one tenth of the total wedding budget is one to thread carefully and carelessly at the same time if you want to achieve that fairy-tale wedding. However some brides to be would even go as far as buying more than one wedding dress, so that they have a choice on the day and another dress for the evening duration of the event. You would assume that, they perfectly deserve to buy as many dresses as they want since they are spending their hard-earned cash that they carefully planned and saved for and rightly so to spend as they please. Would it have crossed the barrier if finance is scarce and some would take a loan without a blink of an eye to maintain that dream wedding just so that they can be happy and cherish that happy day for as long as they are still within that marriage with prince charming?

It is definitely hard and poignant at the same time, knowing that this wedding dress would only be worn by the bride for just one day and potential would find it difficult to sell that season dress, since mandatory every year, designers introduce their latest collection meaning that the dress that was purchased would be depreciated and would radically lose its monetary value and potential buyers for second-hand dress or even worse, a dress that has been bought for a wedding but the bride had no chance to wear it for many unforeseeable reasons and not a guarantee that it would sell and fetch the money invested from the beginning, let alone a demand for that style and taste with the next year season.

Therefore after searching and speaking with disillusioned and irritated brides, the consensus response and ultimate solution would be summarised in these hopeful (I say hopeful because in an ideal world, it would work perfectly) three tips to avoid falling into this trap and coming on top, but this tips would purely be for the brides who are not overtly concerned about wearing a brand new or a designer named gown for that special day. If you are indeed that bride who cherish and dream of wearing first edition only dress, do not feel guilty as after all it is your special day and you rightly in your element to feel special whether you are spending a quarter of a deposit for a mortgaged house.

1. Look and enquire about a rental wedding dress

This is somehow not a popular trend for wedding dress designers, but I’m sure it would be interesting and beneficial to be able to rent your gown and spend a small fee for couple of days rental and can be returned in a pristine condition, just how groom and grooms-men outfit is rented, this would be amazing if designers offers this service.

2. Look into buying a second-hand dress

This may sound overly unpleasant and remind brides about how financial unprepared they are about their special day and the embarrassment may reach its peak especially when you see glossy and stunning gowns every single day. However cub that feeling and replace with the awareness that this day is important for one momentous day and the rest will just be great memories that will be stored and replayed over and over again but one that cannot be changed or altered. Therefore, the possibility to buy a gown already worn before but one that is in fabulous condition and great quality that it cannot be identified from a new gown, with the obvious major difference of price, which would be far cheaper than the original gown is perfectly sensible and logical.

3. Look into the minimum(budget) and affordable dress

Mostly the cost of a dress will indicate whether it’s by a designer or the dress is customised and bespoke, which will clearly cost a large sum of money, so this require uttermost discipline from the bridal party to maintain and stay on course. By allocating the bare minimum estimated and keeping abreast of the budget and not deviating from the target expenditure, you would be in control and it would help you stay consistent and focus by ultimately achieving the happy ever after.

There are many ways to achieve that fairy-tale wedding and looking like a princess, but by keeping to this tips, which I want to reiterate can only be a great solution if the service of rental is possible and you completely at ease if you don’t mind spending less on a second-hand dress. So to round it up sweetly, by having an open mind, great attitude, an eye and ear to spotting opportunities, then I’m sure your special day will be magical without the mammoth price tag.


Online Dating Wrong Doing

It is quite unfortunate that people don’t always turn out to be what they seemed. The internet, including social networks and dating sites have become a scammer’s paradise with their motive usually being money. When dating online you could feel desperate to meet a potential single, but you really can’t allow this to blind you into a scam. If you are keen enough, you will be able to see scammer behaviors and avoid or report them before they harm you in any way. Here are some of the red flags that should caution you.

Humbling requests for money – This is the commonly used trick to extort money from singles dating online. Usually the scammer will start off nicely with you only to give you a very sympathetic story and solicit for financial help from you. Remember that some allow for a considerable time to pass between you two before they can make the money approach. Never respond to such monetary requests, even if you already feel a connection with your date because they might only be after money and nothing more.

Money offers – Apart from asking for money from you scammers can also use the strategy of offering you money for nothing at all. Some even tell you of a get rich scheme that will benefit both of you, but usually they are only trying to fish for your bank details and any other financial information you could be willing to share with them. Money can be tempting when offered, but be on high alert if such a scenario takes place because to receive the money you would need to give banking details that can be used to fraud you.

Quick declarations of love – In all honesty, it takes time for someone to get to know you enough to love and this should still apply even when you are dating online. If someone declares love for you in a matter of hours, days or weeks, allow the bells in your head to ring hard. It is possible for people to fall in love quickly but if you haven’t even spent any time together, then this would be hard to come by. It could be thrilling to hear such declarations because love is what got you in the dating site in the first place, but don’t be hasty with anything no matter what.

Suspicious requests – The most innocent and common requests include those that ask you to get in front of your webcam nude and give a sexy show to your date. Scammers are tricky enough to record such and they will use the footage later to blackmail and threaten you into sending them money or they expose you to the world. Apart from the videos, you should never send any indecent pictures to your date because they might just end up being used to blackmail you. No matter what kind of relationship you are looking for, be very careful with what you share online.


Why Do Some People Think They Are Superior To Men/Women?

When one thinks about the opposite gender, they may start to think about some of the men/women that they know. Through doing this, they could reflect on what they are like and the kind of qualities they they bring to the world.

One could then see that there are things that they can do that someone else can’t do, or it could be the other way around. Along with this, one may find that some of these people have similar qualities to them.


But regardless of whether this is the case; they could still find that they respect these people. As a result, one is not going to see themselves as being in competition with the people they know of the opposite gender.

And while some of these people could be their family members; there are others who could be their friends and colleagues, for instance. This is not to say that they will have this outlook when it comes to every man/woman they know.

Part of Life

It could be said that this is to be expected, and this is because it is not going to be possible for one to feel connected to every man/woman they come into contact with. Not only that, they are likely to find that they can’t stand to be around some of them.

So while they will feel good when they think about some of the men/women they know; this is not always going to be the case. If they were to reflect on why they feel different, it could be due to a number of reasons.

The Reasons

One may start to think about how someone doesn’t take the time to greet them, doesn’t listen to them or talks down on them, for instance. Through behaving in this way, one could find it hard to spend time with them.

But if they do spend time with them, they could find they it has a negative effect on their well-being. And although this outlook relates to the opposite gender, it is likely to be an outlook they would have if even if these people were the same gender.


What this then shows is that the challenges they have with the people of the opposite gender relates to their behaviour as opposed to anything else. Thus, is these people were to change, one may find that their outlook changes.

This is also emphasised by the fact that there are people of the opposite gender who they respect. However, if one had this outlook when it came to every member of the opposite sex, it would be a sign that it relates to something deeper.

The Superior Gender

When it relates to something deeper, it could be a sign that one believes that the opposite gender is not at the same level as their gender. As a result of this, it won’t matter whether a man/woman changes their behaviour.

Ultimately, they are going to be seen as inferior, and this means that it won’t matter how they behave or what they bring to the world. Also, one may say that it is not simply something they believe; it could be seen as the truth.


Their outlook could also be backed up by some of the people they spend their time with, and this will give them the validation they need. But even if they don’t have people around them who support them, there is a strong chance that they will be able to find this support on the internet.

This comes down to the fact that there will be plenty of information online that supports their outlook, and this will also give them the chance to speak to like-minded people. Therefore, as long as one has some kind of device, they can receive the support they want no matter where they are.

More Evidence

If one is fairly convinced that they have the right outlook, they will be supported by going online. But even if one is not completely convinced that they are right, this could soon change.

What this comes down to is that as long as they are open to the idea that one gender is superior to the other, it will be a lot easier for them to be conditioned. It is then similar to someone who only goes shopping to buy a few things and ends up coming home with bags of things; they wanted to buy things and they were in an environment where this could take place.

Open and Closed

When it comes to information that supports their view, they will be only too happy to hear about it. Yet when it comes to information that goes against their view; there is not much of them being able to take it in.

It will then be normal for them to ignore or to dismiss anything that goes against their outlook. So unless they are willing to change, it is highly unlikely that they will be able to see life differently.

A Closer Look

If someone was able to look into when one first developed the outlook that one gender is superior to the other, they may find that it took place in their older years. But at the same time, it may have be the result of what took place during their younger years.

During this time, their same sex parent may have treated their opposite sex parent as though they were worthless. Or they may have been abused and/or neglected by their opposite sex parent.


If the former took place, it would have caused one to be falsely empowered, and this is because they would have ended up developing a dysfunctional idea of the opposite sex. The parent who looked down on the other parent would have been disconnected from their own shame.

But if the latter took place, it would have caused one to feel as though they were inferior, and in order to avoid feeling this way, they would have gone to the other extreme. The parent who abused and/or neglected them would have also been disconnected from their own shame.


If one can relate this and wants to get back in touch with their own humanity, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support. This can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group.


The Special and Unique Feeling of Life

Love is a psychological sentiment which comes out like other emotional feelings like curiosity, anger etc. Through the vision of psychology, in this article, I am going to discuss two parts. The first part is about intimate love and interrelated parental and the second part is about significance and importance of love and adoration on inspiration and pair-bonding.

At the time of young age, our parents should support us with all kinds of spiritual and material foster. The most important thing is that their support should be selfless and unconditional. Otherwise, it is really hard for us to survive in this world for a longer period. Thus, it is considered that parental love is unforgettable and it is in a way similar to the intimate love as both of them are interrelated. This is the reason why we always look for the most capable and responsible guidance for our future.

We find now that our parents sometimes motivate us to know about love. I still remember my father told me that love is creativity. It’s an art of living beings. If we humans are getting love in our life, that means we are blessed. We are lucky that we are getting someone’s unconditional and selfless love. Thus, you can know now that our parents can easily motivate us with the benefits of love and it grows from generation to generation. They can nurture their children with good things and make them to not being a materialistic person in their life.

While parental love is important in our life, at the same time we need the basic intimate love also at a certain age. Our body needs to develop with time. With the intimate love we share our emotions, feelings to our partners. Even in a conjugal life, a wife after a certain time plays the role of a mother of her husband. She cares for him and nurtures him with all emotions. After the all day hard work, the husband finds peace in the lap of his wife, which he used to get before in his mother’s lap. So, now it can be seen that parental love and conjugal love are really interrelated.

Every living being at a certain moment enjoys the universal feeling of love. If we talk about the living beings, you can see that even animals also know the touch of love. As an example, it is seen that a mother dog also cares and protects her babies. So, this feeling is not only for human beings, it is rather felt by each and every living being.

It is basically related biologically and rotates in a circle. When a child is born, the parents forget everything except taking care of him/her. They find their life in nurturing the baby. They spend their whole life in it. After the baby grows up, he/she finds his/her life partner and then it rotates in a biological structure.

Even according to Mahatma Gandhi, love is life. So, every person should find his/her life and enjoy it throughout their life. Remember that love can make your life heavenly. So, you should never waste your feelings.


Go By the Online Dating Rules

Everything has rules. Some rules are unwritten and just known by word of mouth. Other rules are available in black and white, such as laws. You may have heard of the dating rules, well there are online dating rules to consider as well.

Anyone dating online wants a positive experience. It is possible when considering some rules or things that are in place to help everyone in your situation. When signing up for online dating you will get terms of use information. Those are the website’s rules and each set is different with some similar elements. An example is, most indicate to not be obscene and abuse the services. This is a rule to go by as part of online dating rules if you want to stay on the site.

You might be told to be truthful. There are many reasons to do this. First, you want the people you talk with to be truthful so you owe it to them as well. Second, when filling out your information to help match you with a date it is important to be accurate so you are matched appropriately. Finally, it is lawful to be truthful and often this is mentioned in the website rules as well as on the questionnaire. There are often background checks done, but anyone with ill plans might be able to get past that so be careful. Even if you are trustworthy, but change up your questionnaire to be more interesting if someone finds out it could cause trouble.

Keep in mind as well that you need to be cautious. Go by the online dating rules and keep yourself safe. Don’t give out personal information to just anyone. That means avoiding talking too much about where you work at first or giving out your phone number and address. This is a way of keeping your privacy as well as keeping you safe. It is imperative that you make sure that your safety precautions are in place. There have been instances when people have been cheated by people online masked as dates. But these are just some instances, most of the people have been successful at finding life partners for life.

Furthermore, often when dating it is not considered polite to have several dates, especially once people have communicated a lot. Online dating rules mean it is fine to communicate with several potential dates. This is a way to help you find someone that you want to contact for the next step. If you communicate through e-mail or instant message, but find you are not interested then you tell them. Depending on how you have communicated that is how you break up according to online dating rules. Have you talked on the phone? Then call them to break up. If you have met then an in-person break up is in order.

Whatever the relationship is like, it makes sense to the easy way. Register at a online dating site, troll through the profiles, communicate with those whom you prefer. Let the relationship bloom with the one person that you selected. If all goes well, meet in person.