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The Need for Love and a Relationship

Men and women were created to be physically attracted to each other, irrespective of their looks, stature, colour or other qualities that differentiate one person from another. What causes attraction between the opposite sex is in-built in men and women. This is why couples fall in love with each other and later get married – just as it was intended by God, the Creator.

However, “many couples fall in love, marry, and assume that the job is completed. They believe that everything else will work out automatically.” This is far from the truth. A successful relationship does not come by chance. It has to be worked for in love by the couples concerned.

“The cure for all the ills and wrongs, the cares, the sorrow and the crimes of humanity, all lies in one word – ‘love’. It is the divine vitality that everywhere produces and restores life. To each and every one of us, it gives the power of working miracles if we will.” According to Nancy Van Pelt, “thousands commit suicide each year, multitude flock to the courts for divorce while many are in mental hospitals, all for the lack of love and human affection”.

Dr. Smiley Blanton in his book, Love or Perish, says “For more than forty years I have sat in my office and listened while people of all ages and classes told me of their hopes and fears… As I look back over the long, full years, one truth emerges clearly in my mind – the universal need for love… They cannot survive without love: they must have it or they will perish.”

When love fails, relationships fall into ruins and impossible frustrations deluge those involved and those around them. Such emotional pressure may result in juvenile delinquency, adult crime, alcoholism and various forms of drug addiction.

You need to love your spouse. “It is love that spins the universe, and when we fail to use love properly, all of life suffers.” The truth is that we all need love in huge quantities. Love is the single most important force contributing to our total well-being. With love in your relationship, you can forge ahead through life’s most bitter moments and also withstand insults and cruelty.

A word of caution is necessary here. Do not expect unconditional love from your spouse all the time! This is humanly impossible. You must recognize that your spouse demands a certain standard of behaviour from you before he or she will be able to love you more.

Love – the Woman’s Perspective
Love is necessary for human survival, and women have great capacity for love and capacity to be loved. A woman’s love is seen in the home when she prepares the family meal, when she washes her spouse’s and children’s clothes, when she cares for the children in a variety of other ways. A woman’s love is expressed when she speaks to or discusses with her husband. When she rises early to prepare the children for school, her love shines through. Her fervent prayers for the man’s success speak of her love. Her warm greetings as the man leaves in the morning and when she arrives home at night evidence her great love for the man.

A woman’s capacity to love can bring out the very best from a man. Her love can keep a man from a life of crime. Her love can spark hope and renewed trust in a man – making him feel wanted and important. When a man’s hopes and dreams are shattered, her love can comfort him. When discouragement sets in and dreams crumble, the woman can help him build new ones.

The world needs the gentle, loving, affectionate touch of a woman, and the love within her merely awaits the right man to tap its fountain of love and affection. Women also have enormous capacity for love. Not only do they have to share affection, they also have large capacity to absorb love in return.

Often when a young man woos a young woman, he persists all day with sweet words and kind deeds. This suddenly stops as soon as the young man has won the young woman over, forgetting the woman’s intense need to feel loved on a daily basis for the rest of her life.

Because of her capacity for affection, daily expressions of romantic love are vital to a woman’s existence. It is the key to her self-worth, her satisfaction with married life, and her sexual responsiveness. By consistently and thoughtfully expressing romantic love, many men could melt even the most frigid woman.

While love and romance is sweet and play an important role in a relationship, it may be reasonable to conclude here that love alone is not enough. “A cake made from nothing but sugar would soon dissolve.”

Love – the Man’s Perspective
Men are lovers, but their approach to love differs from that of women. Men are affectionate by nature, and it is a gross misunderstanding to think that men resort to affection only when it involves sex. Although a man’s love may not be so directly tied to his emotions as a woman’s, it is still very real. He is just more often practical and less romantic in his demonstration of love.

A man shows his love as he juggles the bank account to buy things for the home, the wife and the children. A man may feel very little emotion in rising very early in the morning and returning very late at night every day, but his main reason for doing so is his love for his family. Men endure this routine for a lifetime and often as for a little more than meals and an embrace at the proper time.

No matter how rough the outside of a man, tenderness and love still lurks underneath the surface. A man by nature is kind, affectionate, loving and sentimental. He has tender ways and can be deeply thoughtful. And he expresses his love for his family in a variety of ways.

Whereas love does not make up a man’s entire existence, he cannot live without it. Love motivates a man to work, plan, sacrifice, invest, expand and pursue. It is for love that he gives up his singleness, accepts full financial responsibility for her and all children born to the union, and gives away his most prized possession – freedom.

There is no limit to the love a woman can receive from a man when she learns to open the door to his heart, for she can provide the right emotional atmosphere for him to freely expose his feelings and dare to share his love.


Love Is A Gift

The one thing that makes loves hard to understand is the fact that we try to understand it with the mind while we can only understand it by heart. Love is a gift that God granted to us so freely by giving His only son to save us from sin. We in turn naturally extend this love to people around us and even though you could end up loving two people in two different ways, it is love nonetheless. There is really nothing that is more beautiful than to have the ability to love others and nothing feels better than to have others love you.

Where do we go wrong?

Today love appears overrated and not very many people know how it really feels to love and to give love as the gift that it is supposed to be. By trying to love using our heads, we have ended up sliding love into sexuality and when this happens, we lose the true meaning of love. Most people today are those that love expecting something in return but love as a gift should be given without expecting anything in return. When we end up having expectations simply because we love, then getting disappointed is easy which explains why there are so many sad and unhappy relationships today.

When you love, then you will want the best for the other person and you wouldn’t be too inclined in what they give back to you. Actually the fact remains that not many people will make you feel appreciated for the good you do onto them and when you focus on this lack, then you could even lose your ability to love and appreciate people around you. Love should be given as a gift in that you do it to make others happy and to make them feel you care without really hoping that they will gift you back. When you are able to give love happily and without any expectations, then you will definitely be more fulfilled and content.

How to love

Before anything else, you must learn to love yourself before you can love people around you. When you love yourself, you will feel happy whether you are single, in a relationship or in a marriage. Marriages based on love survive the test of time compared to those unions that are based on other conveniences they offer such as financial stability. To love yourself, concentrate on your traits and accept any flaws you are not comfortable with. When you accept yourself for the person you are then you will be confident and content, hence making it easier for you to extend the love to people around you.

Feeling inadequate can have negative effects on your confidence and self-esteem and this affects your view of love and how you give it. By accepting the person you are, you will know your worth and you will also manage to see others for who they are regardless of their flaws. When this balance is achieved, you most definitely will be able to share love as valuable gift.

Relationships are based on love, but how you look at love determines the value those relationships hold and how meaningful they turn to be in your life and the lives of others.


Love Is What Love Does

If there is any word in this world that has lost its place in relationships, it’s love. The world has substituted love for everything from people, to money, careers, things, sex, feelings, etc. The saddest thing about it, the replacements has crept their way to church. Most relationships among the people of God are now a reflection of what’s in the world rather than a replica of what’s in the Word. Love itself has not changed. It is built solely on your acts-what you do, what you give-your every act of kindness.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son… ” St John 3:16 NIV

Love is verified through deeds of kindness. It hasn’t lost its luster, its purpose, its drive, or its assignment. It has and always will do what it was originally intended to do. In order to receive the complete manifestation of it, we have to give up our own selfish, inconsiderate and insensitive perception and definition of love and take on the real genuine meaning of it. For the bible defines love as God.

“Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:8 NIV

Love’s definition is so plain and simple, but its people who have made it so complex. In this is generation, most efforts to find love are initiated with dreams of settling down with the fine biceps, nice body, beautiful hair, and that exceptionally financial-friendly person, not realizing that this mindset of settling down is rather more in lines of settling for the imitation version of love. Understand that having someone who’s handsome and beautiful with money is not the problem. The dilemma is failing to decipher what takes precedence over the other in relationship. Do they love you? or have they fallen head-over-hills in love with what you have? This is not a gender-specific error, for it applies to male and female. People have simply reconstructed the meaning of love and its attributes to fit them and their own personal agenda, and wonder why relationships often result in death. Understand that when it comes to building anything, especially relationships, the initial start of the construction, the foundation, influences the assembly of the entire building. If your relationship foundation is built on anything other than the things that’s designed to make it durable and stand against the poundings of the heat, rain, and winds, it will sooner or later tumble. At some point, no matter how good it looks, or appear to others, it will come down. How your life of love is built matters.

“Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it… ” Psalm 127:1 KJV

What Bait Are You Using to Attract Love?

On a journey for love, we have a tendency to display the very thing we want others to like or love about us most. For example, women and men alike, whether consciously or subconsciously, tend to highlight tangible things such as cars, homes, money, etc.; financial statuses, physical physiques, careers, and ministry are included. Please don’t misinterpret this to suggest that all those things carry no weight in relationships, because to a certain degree they do. However, on a search for love, the thing you really need to place emphasis on most is the real genuine qualities of you-no makeup, body parts, financial status, or anything of such. Displaying all these outer qualities draws attention away from the real you. Therefore, leading others to love what you do best; enticing them to place emphasis on your body parts, careers, and monetary status more than you. At the end of the day, when real love comes, it’s looking for you. This rings true in all relationships, whether seeking a spouse, friend, job, business, or even relationships in ministry. You’d be surprised to the many people who falls in love with the idea of marriage or the wedding more so than the person they’re marrying or married to. Many relationships are held together by finances; as many are also intact as long as he or she retains their physical physique. You must remember that the adhesive you use to hold your relationship together will fasten as long as you use the right glue. If the glue you use loses its ability to stick, whatever’s held together by it is at risk of falling apart. With that being said, to ensure real genuine love in your relationships, take advantage of the glue, the love, the God that’s able to make it stick and last. This is the love that is defined and generated by God.

Your Relationship with God Reflects

Your relationship with God is a direct reflection of your relationship with others. For that reason, the bible requires us to love God first, then others as we would ourselves. Rightly so, we’re not ready to love others until we learn how to love God. For loving God teaches us how to love ourselves as well as others. If your love for others is out of alignment or not in the right perspective, then your relationship with God is the same-questionable. We must be careful and intentional about not choosing to make a life with people who do not have a relationship with God. On the other hand, it’s just as risky to pursue relationships with those who do love God, while lacking in that area yourself. That will attract major turmoil for both involved. If he has problems loving God, he’ll have problems loving the people or daughter of God. We’re conceding to allow others to love us according to the world’s standards and not the Word’s when we don’t strategize in relationships. Don’t choose to accept reduced or imitation love over the abundant kind of love that only comes from God. If it means having to wait on the Lord, then wait.


The Special and Unique Feeling of Life

Love is a psychological sentiment which comes out like other emotional feelings like curiosity, anger etc. Through the vision of psychology, in this article, I am going to discuss two parts. The first part is about intimate love and interrelated parental and the second part is about significance and importance of love and adoration on inspiration and pair-bonding.

At the time of young age, our parents should support us with all kinds of spiritual and material foster. The most important thing is that their support should be selfless and unconditional. Otherwise, it is really hard for us to survive in this world for a longer period. Thus, it is considered that parental love is unforgettable and it is in a way similar to the intimate love as both of them are interrelated. This is the reason why we always look for the most capable and responsible guidance for our future.

We find now that our parents sometimes motivate us to know about love. I still remember my father told me that love is creativity. It’s an art of living beings. If we humans are getting love in our life, that means we are blessed. We are lucky that we are getting someone’s unconditional and selfless love. Thus, you can know now that our parents can easily motivate us with the benefits of love and it grows from generation to generation. They can nurture their children with good things and make them to not being a materialistic person in their life.

While parental love is important in our life, at the same time we need the basic intimate love also at a certain age. Our body needs to develop with time. With the intimate love we share our emotions, feelings to our partners. Even in a conjugal life, a wife after a certain time plays the role of a mother of her husband. She cares for him and nurtures him with all emotions. After the all day hard work, the husband finds peace in the lap of his wife, which he used to get before in his mother’s lap. So, now it can be seen that parental love and conjugal love are really interrelated.

Every living being at a certain moment enjoys the universal feeling of love. If we talk about the living beings, you can see that even animals also know the touch of love. As an example, it is seen that a mother dog also cares and protects her babies. So, this feeling is not only for human beings, it is rather felt by each and every living being.

It is basically related biologically and rotates in a circle. When a child is born, the parents forget everything except taking care of him/her. They find their life in nurturing the baby. They spend their whole life in it. After the baby grows up, he/she finds his/her life partner and then it rotates in a biological structure.

Even according to Mahatma Gandhi, love is life. So, every person should find his/her life and enjoy it throughout their life. Remember that love can make your life heavenly. So, you should never waste your feelings.