The Fear of Being Excluded

Many of us grew up experiencing, in one way or another, the pain of being excluded. Perhaps you felt excluded at home – by parents or siblings, or with friendships at school or outside of school. As a child, being excluded is deeply crushing. Children don’t have the ability to not take things personally, so being excluded likely contributes to our shame and insecurity.

Gretchen asked me for advice about her fear of exclusion and rejection:

“I have a fear of being excluded which goes back to my days in junior high school where I was part of a group of three friends. Two of us would be friends while excluding the third. This dynamic would rotate around the three of us frequently. My painful memories are of those times when I was the one who was left out and called names. I think the exclusion of the third person is what united and bonded the other two friends. To this day I am fearful of being excluded and so easily feel left out even in benign situations. It is also mixed with a heavy fear of rejection, which I am hyper-vigilant to. I believe the whole world belongs except me. I suffer from depression, which may contribute to this feeling. I would be grateful if you could advise how I may go about freeing myself from this pain.”

The first thing Gretchen would need to do is learn and practice Inner Bonding so that she can start to become aware of how she is excluding and rejecting herself. Very often, when I ask clients to go inside and ask how their inner child feels about them, the answer is something like this:

“I feel ignored by you. You barely know I’m here. You never listen to me. You put a lot of pressure on me to do things ‘right,’ and you often tell me I’m not good enough. Others are always more important to you than I am. I hate that you keep numbing me with food (or other addictions).”

As long as you are excluding and rejecting yourself by ignoring your feelings, judging yourself, numbing your feelings with addictions and/or making others responsible for your feelings and then giving yourself up to get their approval, your inner child will feel excluded and rejected by you. Then, your inner self-abandonment gets projected onto others and, like Gretchen, you may feel depressed and believe that you don’t belong in this world. Depression is a frequent result of self-abandonment.

When you learn to love and value yourself, and to define your own intrinsic worth that isn’t based on looks, achievements or others’ approval, you will find yourself no longer even thinking about whether or not people are rejecting you. When you are consistently including yourself by listening to your feelings and your Guidance, and taking loving action in your own behalf, you will feel full and happy inside, with a lot of love to share with others. You will find that others are drawn to you when you love yourself and are full of love to share, whereas the more you reject yourself, the more you will feel rejected by others.

People often mirror how we treat ourselves, so the more you learn to love and value yourself, the more you will experience love and valuing from others. Feelings of exclusion and rejection become experiences of the past when you practice Inner Bonding and learn to love yourself.

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Love Is A Gift

The one thing that makes loves hard to understand is the fact that we try to understand it with the mind while we can only understand it by heart. Love is a gift that God granted to us so freely by giving His only son to save us from sin. We in turn naturally extend this love to people around us and even though you could end up loving two people in two different ways, it is love nonetheless. There is really nothing that is more beautiful than to have the ability to love others and nothing feels better than to have others love you.

Where do we go wrong?

Today love appears overrated and not very many people know how it really feels to love and to give love as the gift that it is supposed to be. By trying to love using our heads, we have ended up sliding love into sexuality and when this happens, we lose the true meaning of love. Most people today are those that love expecting something in return but love as a gift should be given without expecting anything in return. When we end up having expectations simply because we love, then getting disappointed is easy which explains why there are so many sad and unhappy relationships today.

When you love, then you will want the best for the other person and you wouldn’t be too inclined in what they give back to you. Actually the fact remains that not many people will make you feel appreciated for the good you do onto them and when you focus on this lack, then you could even lose your ability to love and appreciate people around you. Love should be given as a gift in that you do it to make others happy and to make them feel you care without really hoping that they will gift you back. When you are able to give love happily and without any expectations, then you will definitely be more fulfilled and content.

How to love

Before anything else, you must learn to love yourself before you can love people around you. When you love yourself, you will feel happy whether you are single, in a relationship or in a marriage. Marriages based on love survive the test of time compared to those unions that are based on other conveniences they offer such as financial stability. To love yourself, concentrate on your traits and accept any flaws you are not comfortable with. When you accept yourself for the person you are then you will be confident and content, hence making it easier for you to extend the love to people around you.

Feeling inadequate can have negative effects on your confidence and self-esteem and this affects your view of love and how you give it. By accepting the person you are, you will know your worth and you will also manage to see others for who they are regardless of their flaws. When this balance is achieved, you most definitely will be able to share love as valuable gift.

Relationships are based on love, but how you look at love determines the value those relationships hold and how meaningful they turn to be in your life and the lives of others.

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Tips To Keep Guests Comfortable At Outdoor Wedding

Outdoor weddings can be beautiful events, especially when they take place in the right location. They are especially wonderful for outdoor enthusiasts, those who spend their spare time in nature, and those who enjoy to garden. However, there can be a number of things to think about when considering this type of event. A number of things could go wrong, from bad weather events to issues with pests. Without proper planning and preparation, what should be a fairy tale day could end up being a disaster with unhappy guests. The following are some tips to keep in mind when planning outdoor weddings:

Choosing a Location

When deciding on where to get married, it is incredibly important to choose the location very carefully. Always try to find a location that has an indoor option in the event of inclement weather. While the hope is that an indoor venue will not be needed, the extra insurance of having it will ease the mind of everyone involved. For wine enthusiasts, vineyards can provide a beautiful backdrop outside while still having weather protected area like a gazebo in the event of rain.

A hotel can also provide an ideal option for a location. There are some gorgeous hotels in lovely areas of the country, and they almost always have a conference room to use if needed. For those who are on a smaller budget and may be using a friend’s large yard, be sure to budget for a tent to protect guests.

Be Prepared With Protective Equipment

In the budget, be sure to include some room for protective items to keep the guests comfortable. Heating lamps are one item to think about if the event is going to be held during a cooler time of year. Also, think about bathrooms if the event is in a remote area. Portable toilets will have to be brought in if there are no other options for guests. Also, make sure there is a working power source at the location. Otherwise, a generator will need to be secured to ensure there are lights and electricity for the big day.

Prepare For Any Potential Weather Events

The topic of weather has come up many times, but it bears repeating that the bride and groom need to be fully prepared for any weather that can affect their big day. In addition to rain, there are also extreme heat and humidity to think about. Sudden cold spells in the fall can also be an issue. Make sure the guests know that the wedding will be outside so they can prepare themselves. If it is especially hot, provide some water bottles and fans to cool the guests down. For colder outdoor weddings, consider providing some fleece blankets as one of the favors so guests can cover themselves.

Outdoor weddings are beautiful, but they do take a lot of planning. Always have an indoor option available just in case. Also have anything necessary on hand to make sure guests are comfortable as possible. Most importantly, have fun and enjoy the big day!

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Online Dating Red Flags You Should Look Out

Online dating can evoke any number of emotions; confusion, stress, anger, excitement and happiness are just a few. I want to help make your online dating life a little bit easier. Online dating can be difficult and we want to help you spot some online dating profile red flags.

First and foremost, if their picture is either non-existent or a group shot – beware.

These are signs of someone unattractive. If you’re not so concerned with what’s on the outside, then this probably isn’t a red flag for you. But for most, it is somewhat important. Online dating profiles are all about advertising yourself to possible mates, so why hide that?

No creativity.

If the person whose profile you’re checking out shows no type of individual personality, it’s probably a bad sign. The whole point is to find someone compatible with you, so how is that possible if they used the example paragraph the site provides you with? Being generic isn’t a good thing when it comes to online dating profiles; they’re probably boring.

The overuse of clich├ęs.

We all know that the stereotypical online profile states the user is “kind and romantic” and is looking for “someone to share my life with” but that’s all too familiar. Nobody likes that super cheesy guy or girl they know. If they use the standard terms we’ve heard on TV shows and movies, they’re probably not the most original.

Sharing too much information.

It’s an online dating profile, not a diary. No one is going to be interested in you if you spill your guts before you even meet up. Ranting about previous relationships or complaining about what you HATE in a mate is not attractive and a huge red flag. Chances are, if they’re complaining about an ex, they’re probably not over them.

Too many deal-breakers.

If a person’s profile is just a list of things they won’t tolerate in a relationship, they are probably too picky and too bossy for you to deal with. Obviously there are some that are totally acceptable, like if you can’t date a smoker, but if you see they have height or weight requirements and even salary demands, that’s a little over the edge. You probably wouldn’t live up to their standards, so why even try?

Hopefully you found this list of red flags helpful. Dating nightmares happen to the best of us, but we want to make sure it doesn’t happen to you.

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Type of Relationship Do You Have

Relationships are more than what we want but they are what we need to be our happiest selves. Unfortunately, they don’t come automatically. Most of us have in our minds what a “good” relationship looks like and we choose partners that fit into that mindset. We’ve all seen couples who seem mismatched, while others appear as if they were meant to be. The following are the top 10 different types of relationships:

The On/Off Couple

First on our list of the top 10 different types of relationships is the on/off couple. This is the couple that gets into a fight at Noon and are back in love by lunchtime. It’s a tug of war with every topic of discussion. Each wants to be right and the solution to a problem is to break up. But they realize they don’t want to be apart, so in no time they are together again.

The Motivational Couple

It’s always good to have that person that encourages you no matter what. This couple finds a way to pump each other up, regardless if it’s getting out of bed in the morning or attending class. Being each other’s cheerleader keeps this relationship at full speed.

The “Married” Couple

Some couples have spent so much time together they complete each other’s sentences and get on each other’s nerves – like a real husband and wife! Marriage may be way down the road for this couple but they certainly know how to play.

The Fitness Couple

These two probably met each other at the gym. They work out together, can be seen running all the time, and wear exercise gear everywhere they go. They are the most physically fit couple you know and fitness is a way of life.

The Hipster Couple

They like music that doesn’t exist yet, eat food that hasn’t been heard of yet, and go to the coolest places no one has ever been. They are the cool, hipster couple in their own hip world! You can always learn what’s new from them.

The Long Distance Couple

How sweet is this couple? Well, their cell phone bill probably is not so sweet, because that is their main form of communication. This couple texts like crazy and Skypes until the heavens part. Each second of their free time is spent on-line.

The Too Comfortable Couple

How do you know you’re too comfortable? When you don’t mind your honey brushing their teeth, while you’re on the toilet. And you have a full-on conversation. Yep, you’re too comfortable.

The Love Birds

These two need a room – all the time! This couple can’t get enough of each other and make their friends either envious or sick to the stomach by their PDA!

The Hippy Couple

Remember that couple who lived across the hall from you that wore thrift store clothes, flowers in their hair, and proclaimed peace and love could save the world? Well, that is the hippy couple for you.

The Instagram Couple

Instagram is the most popular social media app we have today. This couple does not disappoint! They can always be found taking selfies and searching for that perfect place to take them. They are driven by the number of likes and comments they get.

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Love Is What Love Does

If there is any word in this world that has lost its place in relationships, it’s love. The world has substituted love for everything from people, to money, careers, things, sex, feelings, etc. The saddest thing about it, the replacements has crept their way to church. Most relationships among the people of God are now a reflection of what’s in the world rather than a replica of what’s in the Word. Love itself has not changed. It is built solely on your acts-what you do, what you give-your every act of kindness.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son… ” St John 3:16 NIV

Love is verified through deeds of kindness. It hasn’t lost its luster, its purpose, its drive, or its assignment. It has and always will do what it was originally intended to do. In order to receive the complete manifestation of it, we have to give up our own selfish, inconsiderate and insensitive perception and definition of love and take on the real genuine meaning of it. For the bible defines love as God.

“Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:8 NIV

Love’s definition is so plain and simple, but its people who have made it so complex. In this is generation, most efforts to find love are initiated with dreams of settling down with the fine biceps, nice body, beautiful hair, and that exceptionally financial-friendly person, not realizing that this mindset of settling down is rather more in lines of settling for the imitation version of love. Understand that having someone who’s handsome and beautiful with money is not the problem. The dilemma is failing to decipher what takes precedence over the other in relationship. Do they love you? or have they fallen head-over-hills in love with what you have? This is not a gender-specific error, for it applies to male and female. People have simply reconstructed the meaning of love and its attributes to fit them and their own personal agenda, and wonder why relationships often result in death. Understand that when it comes to building anything, especially relationships, the initial start of the construction, the foundation, influences the assembly of the entire building. If your relationship foundation is built on anything other than the things that’s designed to make it durable and stand against the poundings of the heat, rain, and winds, it will sooner or later tumble. At some point, no matter how good it looks, or appear to others, it will come down. How your life of love is built matters.

“Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it… ” Psalm 127:1 KJV

What Bait Are You Using to Attract Love?

On a journey for love, we have a tendency to display the very thing we want others to like or love about us most. For example, women and men alike, whether consciously or subconsciously, tend to highlight tangible things such as cars, homes, money, etc.; financial statuses, physical physiques, careers, and ministry are included. Please don’t misinterpret this to suggest that all those things carry no weight in relationships, because to a certain degree they do. However, on a search for love, the thing you really need to place emphasis on most is the real genuine qualities of you-no makeup, body parts, financial status, or anything of such. Displaying all these outer qualities draws attention away from the real you. Therefore, leading others to love what you do best; enticing them to place emphasis on your body parts, careers, and monetary status more than you. At the end of the day, when real love comes, it’s looking for you. This rings true in all relationships, whether seeking a spouse, friend, job, business, or even relationships in ministry. You’d be surprised to the many people who falls in love with the idea of marriage or the wedding more so than the person they’re marrying or married to. Many relationships are held together by finances; as many are also intact as long as he or she retains their physical physique. You must remember that the adhesive you use to hold your relationship together will fasten as long as you use the right glue. If the glue you use loses its ability to stick, whatever’s held together by it is at risk of falling apart. With that being said, to ensure real genuine love in your relationships, take advantage of the glue, the love, the God that’s able to make it stick and last. This is the love that is defined and generated by God.

Your Relationship with God Reflects

Your relationship with God is a direct reflection of your relationship with others. For that reason, the bible requires us to love God first, then others as we would ourselves. Rightly so, we’re not ready to love others until we learn how to love God. For loving God teaches us how to love ourselves as well as others. If your love for others is out of alignment or not in the right perspective, then your relationship with God is the same-questionable. We must be careful and intentional about not choosing to make a life with people who do not have a relationship with God. On the other hand, it’s just as risky to pursue relationships with those who do love God, while lacking in that area yourself. That will attract major turmoil for both involved. If he has problems loving God, he’ll have problems loving the people or daughter of God. We’re conceding to allow others to love us according to the world’s standards and not the Word’s when we don’t strategize in relationships. Don’t choose to accept reduced or imitation love over the abundant kind of love that only comes from God. If it means having to wait on the Lord, then wait.

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Your Fairy-Tale Wedding Dress

The day you’ve dreamed about… Walking down the aisle with prince charming in his sleek, charming four piece suit that scream class and sophistication and not to mention possibly rented for the special occasion. That dream of eventually looking like a fairy-tale princess and all eyes on you and not leaving out the fact that the most cherished and adorned piece of item that sums up the whole voyage of marrying your soul and best mate is ultimately the most expensive item for you as a bride to be. It’s supposed to take roughly a whole year to source your dream wedding dress and within that time frame, chances are you would need numerous alteration and fittings to suit your changing figure, which I’m sure would trigger the need to go on a diet or possibly a crash diet to lose that unwanted love handles that seems to breakdown our world if we don’t lose it just in the nick of time to achieve that perfect hourglass or that supermodel figure for just that one special day.

If you fall into the category of wanting to buy and have the perfect wedding dress, probably a designer named, then spending that amount that could cater for one tenth of the total wedding budget is one to thread carefully and carelessly at the same time if you want to achieve that fairy-tale wedding. However some brides to be would even go as far as buying more than one wedding dress, so that they have a choice on the day and another dress for the evening duration of the event. You would assume that, they perfectly deserve to buy as many dresses as they want since they are spending their hard-earned cash that they carefully planned and saved for and rightly so to spend as they please. Would it have crossed the barrier if finance is scarce and some would take a loan without a blink of an eye to maintain that dream wedding just so that they can be happy and cherish that happy day for as long as they are still within that marriage with prince charming?

It is definitely hard and poignant at the same time, knowing that this wedding dress would only be worn by the bride for just one day and potential would find it difficult to sell that season dress, since mandatory every year, designers introduce their latest collection meaning that the dress that was purchased would be depreciated and would radically lose its monetary value and potential buyers for second-hand dress or even worse, a dress that has been bought for a wedding but the bride had no chance to wear it for many unforeseeable reasons and not a guarantee that it would sell and fetch the money invested from the beginning, let alone a demand for that style and taste with the next year season.

Therefore after searching and speaking with disillusioned and irritated brides, the consensus response and ultimate solution would be summarised in these hopeful (I say hopeful because in an ideal world, it would work perfectly) three tips to avoid falling into this trap and coming on top, but this tips would purely be for the brides who are not overtly concerned about wearing a brand new or a designer named gown for that special day. If you are indeed that bride who cherish and dream of wearing first edition only dress, do not feel guilty as after all it is your special day and you rightly in your element to feel special whether you are spending a quarter of a deposit for a mortgaged house.

1. Look and enquire about a rental wedding dress

This is somehow not a popular trend for wedding dress designers, but I’m sure it would be interesting and beneficial to be able to rent your gown and spend a small fee for couple of days rental and can be returned in a pristine condition, just how groom and grooms-men outfit is rented, this would be amazing if designers offers this service.

2. Look into buying a second-hand dress

This may sound overly unpleasant and remind brides about how financial unprepared they are about their special day and the embarrassment may reach its peak especially when you see glossy and stunning gowns every single day. However cub that feeling and replace with the awareness that this day is important for one momentous day and the rest will just be great memories that will be stored and replayed over and over again but one that cannot be changed or altered. Therefore, the possibility to buy a gown already worn before but one that is in fabulous condition and great quality that it cannot be identified from a new gown, with the obvious major difference of price, which would be far cheaper than the original gown is perfectly sensible and logical.

3. Look into the minimum(budget) and affordable dress

Mostly the cost of a dress will indicate whether it’s by a designer or the dress is customised and bespoke, which will clearly cost a large sum of money, so this require uttermost discipline from the bridal party to maintain and stay on course. By allocating the bare minimum estimated and keeping abreast of the budget and not deviating from the target expenditure, you would be in control and it would help you stay consistent and focus by ultimately achieving the happy ever after.

There are many ways to achieve that fairy-tale wedding and looking like a princess, but by keeping to this tips, which I want to reiterate can only be a great solution if the service of rental is possible and you completely at ease if you don’t mind spending less on a second-hand dress. So to round it up sweetly, by having an open mind, great attitude, an eye and ear to spotting opportunities, then I’m sure your special day will be magical without the mammoth price tag.

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Online Dating Wrong Doing

It is quite unfortunate that people don’t always turn out to be what they seemed. The internet, including social networks and dating sites have become a scammer’s paradise with their motive usually being money. When dating online you could feel desperate to meet a potential single, but you really can’t allow this to blind you into a scam. If you are keen enough, you will be able to see scammer behaviors and avoid or report them before they harm you in any way. Here are some of the red flags that should caution you.

Humbling requests for money – This is the commonly used trick to extort money from singles dating online. Usually the scammer will start off nicely with you only to give you a very sympathetic story and solicit for financial help from you. Remember that some allow for a considerable time to pass between you two before they can make the money approach. Never respond to such monetary requests, even if you already feel a connection with your date because they might only be after money and nothing more.

Money offers – Apart from asking for money from you scammers can also use the strategy of offering you money for nothing at all. Some even tell you of a get rich scheme that will benefit both of you, but usually they are only trying to fish for your bank details and any other financial information you could be willing to share with them. Money can be tempting when offered, but be on high alert if such a scenario takes place because to receive the money you would need to give banking details that can be used to fraud you.

Quick declarations of love – In all honesty, it takes time for someone to get to know you enough to love and this should still apply even when you are dating online. If someone declares love for you in a matter of hours, days or weeks, allow the bells in your head to ring hard. It is possible for people to fall in love quickly but if you haven’t even spent any time together, then this would be hard to come by. It could be thrilling to hear such declarations because love is what got you in the dating site in the first place, but don’t be hasty with anything no matter what.

Suspicious requests – The most innocent and common requests include those that ask you to get in front of your webcam nude and give a sexy show to your date. Scammers are tricky enough to record such and they will use the footage later to blackmail and threaten you into sending them money or they expose you to the world. Apart from the videos, you should never send any indecent pictures to your date because they might just end up being used to blackmail you. No matter what kind of relationship you are looking for, be very careful with what you share online.

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Why Do Some People Think They Are Superior To Men/Women?

When one thinks about the opposite gender, they may start to think about some of the men/women that they know. Through doing this, they could reflect on what they are like and the kind of qualities they they bring to the world.

One could then see that there are things that they can do that someone else can’t do, or it could be the other way around. Along with this, one may find that some of these people have similar qualities to them.

Respect

But regardless of whether this is the case; they could still find that they respect these people. As a result, one is not going to see themselves as being in competition with the people they know of the opposite gender.

And while some of these people could be their family members; there are others who could be their friends and colleagues, for instance. This is not to say that they will have this outlook when it comes to every man/woman they know.

Part of Life

It could be said that this is to be expected, and this is because it is not going to be possible for one to feel connected to every man/woman they come into contact with. Not only that, they are likely to find that they can’t stand to be around some of them.

So while they will feel good when they think about some of the men/women they know; this is not always going to be the case. If they were to reflect on why they feel different, it could be due to a number of reasons.

The Reasons

One may start to think about how someone doesn’t take the time to greet them, doesn’t listen to them or talks down on them, for instance. Through behaving in this way, one could find it hard to spend time with them.

But if they do spend time with them, they could find they it has a negative effect on their well-being. And although this outlook relates to the opposite gender, it is likely to be an outlook they would have if even if these people were the same gender.

Behaviour

What this then shows is that the challenges they have with the people of the opposite gender relates to their behaviour as opposed to anything else. Thus, is these people were to change, one may find that their outlook changes.

This is also emphasised by the fact that there are people of the opposite gender who they respect. However, if one had this outlook when it came to every member of the opposite sex, it would be a sign that it relates to something deeper.

The Superior Gender

When it relates to something deeper, it could be a sign that one believes that the opposite gender is not at the same level as their gender. As a result of this, it won’t matter whether a man/woman changes their behaviour.

Ultimately, they are going to be seen as inferior, and this means that it won’t matter how they behave or what they bring to the world. Also, one may say that it is not simply something they believe; it could be seen as the truth.

Support

Their outlook could also be backed up by some of the people they spend their time with, and this will give them the validation they need. But even if they don’t have people around them who support them, there is a strong chance that they will be able to find this support on the internet.

This comes down to the fact that there will be plenty of information online that supports their outlook, and this will also give them the chance to speak to like-minded people. Therefore, as long as one has some kind of device, they can receive the support they want no matter where they are.

More Evidence

If one is fairly convinced that they have the right outlook, they will be supported by going online. But even if one is not completely convinced that they are right, this could soon change.

What this comes down to is that as long as they are open to the idea that one gender is superior to the other, it will be a lot easier for them to be conditioned. It is then similar to someone who only goes shopping to buy a few things and ends up coming home with bags of things; they wanted to buy things and they were in an environment where this could take place.

Open and Closed

When it comes to information that supports their view, they will be only too happy to hear about it. Yet when it comes to information that goes against their view; there is not much of them being able to take it in.

It will then be normal for them to ignore or to dismiss anything that goes against their outlook. So unless they are willing to change, it is highly unlikely that they will be able to see life differently.

A Closer Look

If someone was able to look into when one first developed the outlook that one gender is superior to the other, they may find that it took place in their older years. But at the same time, it may have be the result of what took place during their younger years.

During this time, their same sex parent may have treated their opposite sex parent as though they were worthless. Or they may have been abused and/or neglected by their opposite sex parent.

Consequences

If the former took place, it would have caused one to be falsely empowered, and this is because they would have ended up developing a dysfunctional idea of the opposite sex. The parent who looked down on the other parent would have been disconnected from their own shame.

But if the latter took place, it would have caused one to feel as though they were inferior, and in order to avoid feeling this way, they would have gone to the other extreme. The parent who abused and/or neglected them would have also been disconnected from their own shame.

Awareness

If one can relate this and wants to get back in touch with their own humanity, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support. This can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group.

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The Special and Unique Feeling of Life

Love is a psychological sentiment which comes out like other emotional feelings like curiosity, anger etc. Through the vision of psychology, in this article, I am going to discuss two parts. The first part is about intimate love and interrelated parental and the second part is about significance and importance of love and adoration on inspiration and pair-bonding.

At the time of young age, our parents should support us with all kinds of spiritual and material foster. The most important thing is that their support should be selfless and unconditional. Otherwise, it is really hard for us to survive in this world for a longer period. Thus, it is considered that parental love is unforgettable and it is in a way similar to the intimate love as both of them are interrelated. This is the reason why we always look for the most capable and responsible guidance for our future.

We find now that our parents sometimes motivate us to know about love. I still remember my father told me that love is creativity. It’s an art of living beings. If we humans are getting love in our life, that means we are blessed. We are lucky that we are getting someone’s unconditional and selfless love. Thus, you can know now that our parents can easily motivate us with the benefits of love and it grows from generation to generation. They can nurture their children with good things and make them to not being a materialistic person in their life.

While parental love is important in our life, at the same time we need the basic intimate love also at a certain age. Our body needs to develop with time. With the intimate love we share our emotions, feelings to our partners. Even in a conjugal life, a wife after a certain time plays the role of a mother of her husband. She cares for him and nurtures him with all emotions. After the all day hard work, the husband finds peace in the lap of his wife, which he used to get before in his mother’s lap. So, now it can be seen that parental love and conjugal love are really interrelated.

Every living being at a certain moment enjoys the universal feeling of love. If we talk about the living beings, you can see that even animals also know the touch of love. As an example, it is seen that a mother dog also cares and protects her babies. So, this feeling is not only for human beings, it is rather felt by each and every living being.

It is basically related biologically and rotates in a circle. When a child is born, the parents forget everything except taking care of him/her. They find their life in nurturing the baby. They spend their whole life in it. After the baby grows up, he/she finds his/her life partner and then it rotates in a biological structure.

Even according to Mahatma Gandhi, love is life. So, every person should find his/her life and enjoy it throughout their life. Remember that love can make your life heavenly. So, you should never waste your feelings.

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